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Anyone here struggle with the final size of dilator set?

I now have no problem for the forth one (Pink equivalent) , in fact I not bothered with any of the smaller ones anymore and start with the Pink-size right away

But I cannot, tried for days, move on to the Light Blue (final one)…

Today when I tried to tolerate and push… I got it in maybe 2.5″ and after the session, I bleed lightly, could it be I torn something? Like my vaginal wall? or remaining hymen? But the bleeding wasn’t severe and not painful afterwards.

[tiffa]

hi Shanna, I can see that your Velvi Kit also quite a standard dilators set 🙂

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However, this is my progress so far

13-Dec #1 dilator – ok, proceed with #2 – 1 inch of tip only, inconsistent
14-Dec #1 – ok , proceed with #2 – ok, proceed with #3 – tip only
15-Dec start with #2 right away, proceed #3 a bit of push and force, went in!!! Painful but endurable and tolerable, for a short while, and gone. Tried #4 and only able to insert tip.
16-Dec same progress with previous day
17-Dec started with 3 right away, struggle a bit with 4 but repeated the same like how I struggled with 3 at first. Same thing happened, but even harder to get in even if I attempted the same amount of push and force. Then I got it out first, then I tried to feel with my fingers, it seemed like the pain/blockage was about 2 inches into my vaginal, a thick narrow wall with a piece of slightly firmer flesh compared to the rest, but if I able to pass that, the rest of the “tunnel” felt quite smooth. So I tried again and got it in, tight, very tight… and painful but tolerable, and gone after a few minutes. A bit uncomfortable when keeping it in, because it’s SO TIGHT, but the pain is gone. Kept that in with some kegels, let my favorite song (about 5 minutes) repeated playing two times, and got it out. Saw spotting when I cleaning myself up, while wiping off the lubes…- Discharge was light brownish yesterday night, I suspect it was my hymen broken? Because I never had a successful penetration before with my bf, and 2 ex-bfs… all only able to penetrate 1.5″ in the max 😐

another issue… 2 days left for my next menstrual cycle and my menses are kinda heavy, hence, I am going to stop for a few days, hope that my dilated vaginal do not form back to pre-dilation! 😕

this is the dilators I am using, I am so doubtful I can reach the last one #5 (said to be a “graduate size”), even my bf laughed and said his is not that big, only the 4, but I am sure it’s between 4-5, bigger than 4.

This is the #4 & #5 (last one).

the picture, almost true-to-size, add 20% to it would be the size of that dilator…
I am not sure I’m gonna be bothered with #5 😕

Me & my bf will be apart for a month by now, he’s going to work overseas for a month, hence I am giving myself a month to dilate before the transition to intercourse. I told him my condition and my experience with my ex, then we failed as well, attempted twice. Same old story, hitting wall, like sharp pain if he goes on.

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I did it without any treatment/consultation from therapist/gynecologist, because I am still waiting for the referral letter, and also the appointment to start the treatment would be long.

I also got the dilators set from vaginismus.com

Hence I started it myself, yesterday’s only my second day and second time trying. First time, I only can insert the smallest, then the second one not able to put in, only the tip.
Then second day, yesterday, naturally I able to insert the second size up comfortably.
I tried to move on to the third one, and seemed impossible, kinda burning sensation on the pelvic floor.
I do some research online and found that the third size is really a challenge for many people.
I will keep tryin!!!

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