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Thanks ladies!

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I’m not sure I would have had the confidence to attempt intercourse if I hadn’t dilated with the glass seven for the weeks prior to our first attempt at intercourse. It really seemed to help relieve some anxiety going into that first attempt knowing that I had successfully dilated with the glass seven. When I first transitioned to the seven, I dilated a little longer with the glass blue beforehand and made sure to use the lidocaine/lube mix.

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Shevrotain,
All of the feelings that you are having are the same feelings that I had before I went to Dr. Pacik’s office to have the procedure done. Also, like Nakitalab, I had tried several different things (laparoscopy, dilators, physical therapy, trigger point injections, lidocaine, etc.) prior to Dr Pacik’s procedure and nothing solved the problem or even helped the problem. My husband and I got to the point where there was no intimacy and we were just two people living in the same house like roommates. I was trying everything I could to fix myself, but he just didn’t understand and he wasn’t giving me the support that I needed. I felt like a freak and I thought I was going to lose my husband because I couldn’t give him a normal sexual relationship. We sat down and had a heart-to-heart one day and I explained how important his support was and that we needed to work together to overcome this problem. From that point on, my husband was very supportive. He was the one who actually found Dr. Pacik’s website. I had my doubts at first because I had tried so many things already and they had all failed. I had already tried dilators without much success, so I feared this procedure would fail too. I was really nervous the night before the procedure, but Dr. Pacik and his staff are one of a kind. When I arrived for the procedure and met the other women who would be getting the procedure done at the same time, I finally felt like someone understood what I had been going through for years. It is an amazing thing to go through the procedure with other women who have had similar struggles and truly understand what you are going through. My husband was with me during the procedure and it really was an eye-opening experience for hime to witness just like Dr. Pacik said above. The combination of the Botox and the dilators and Dr. Pacik’s instruction proved to be the successful combination! It has almost been 4 months since I had the procedure. The Botox has worn off, but I’m still able to dilate without a problem and my husband and I are enjoying the sexual intimacy that we dreamed of. Contacting Dr. Pacik was the best decision we could have made. You are not alone! This forum is full of ladies who understand you and can empathize with your situation.

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Thanks for the advice Heather and Arose:) I have been thinking about switching up the lube we are using because it has seemed impossible to keep the level of lubrication where it needs to be. Or maybe layering the different types of lube? Have you found a particular type of lube you prefer?

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arose,
I was curious to see if you had found anything yet that helps you relax in order to allow him to thrust freely. It makes me nervous that I am nearing the 4 month mark when the Botox will wear off and I still can’t tolerate his thrusting. The only way I can give him enough movement to reach orgasm is when I create the thrusting motion from woman-on-top position. I have been trying to work on my own with the dilators to imitate the thrusting motion and practice that way. It seems like it is only comfortable when I am in control. We are still thrilled at the progress we have made, but it’s just getting frustrating that we have been stuck in a rut with this issue for a couple of months.

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Congratulations to you and your girlfriend for making a decision that will change your lives drastically! You have a lot to look forward to in the upcoming weeks. Be sure to continue supporting your significant other as she dilates on a religious basis over the next months. But let me tell you, it is well worth it. My wife had the procedure about one month ago. She spent long nights and early mornings dilating more than Dr. Pacik’s recommended dilation schedule. Because of her hard work, we have been able to have successful intercourse multiple times over the last two weeks! What an exciting time in our lives as we had never been able to feel this level of intimacy during our 5 year relationship. Your support to her means a great deal and even strong women need us to be there for them during these times. Once again, congratulations! This will be one of those experiences that you will never forget!

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All I can say is that I’m so ecstatic about the decision that my wife and I made for her to get treated by Dr. Pacik. We are a little over a month post-procedure and have had successful intercourse 4 times now!!! Words cannot describe the feeling once you initially get to experience full intercourse with the woman that you love so dearly. The increased intimacy has allowed us to find the playful and fun relationship that we once had in the beginning. The tension that I described in my last post has eased away because we have been able to gain that “closeness” that we desired for so long.

During our initial attempts at intercourse, my thrusting has been limited. We believe this is mainly due to my wife’s anxiety level. It seems like every time we have intercourse, it gets easier. With that ease comes less anxiety and more of an ability for me to thrust. I will caution the males that we need to be careful with women who have high anxiety levels. It is difficult at times for the male (especially myself) to not thrust while in the moment. However, vaginismus patients need us to be strong and let them feel comfortable prior to our movements. My wife and I have transitioned from the missionary position to woman-on-top to help with this. With her on top, it gives all the control to her and helps with her anxieties as well.

I once again have to thank Dr. Pacik and his team! This has been such a HUGE success in our eyes and has completely changed our lives. We are so much happier as a couple and can’t keep our hands off each other! 🙂 Vaginismus is a difficult disorder on so many levels (physical/emotional). However, making it through this disorder together will strengthen relationships and make couples stronger! I know that it has made my wife and I stronger as individuals and in our relationship!

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Date nights are a great idea! It just is so hard sometimes to get out during the week. We enjoy spending just about every Friday night to ourselves. No matter what we are doing, we do it together. Sometimes it’s dinner and a movie and other times its just hanging around the house. We will definitely try the dancing night out. That sounds like a lot of fun and something we don’t typically do. Date nights definitely can set the mood for nighttime fun!!! 🙂

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This seems to be a great place to discuss thrusting during early attempts at intercourse. My husband and I have now attempted intercourse twice since the procedure. During our first attempt, he had limited to no thrusting due to the amount of my anxiety and pressure that accompanied any thrusting at all. Obviously it was extremely difficult for him not to thrust because we were in the missionary position (especially as he became closer to ejaculation). So, first attempt at intercourse was a success! We were able to achieve full penetration with minimal pain. We just weren’t able to perform any thrusting movement due to the anxiety and pressure.

To alleviate some of these problems, our second attempt at intercourse was in the woman-on-top position. This seemed to work fantastic because it allowed me to move and ease him in-and-out of me with minimal anxiety. The anxiety was much lower because I had complete control (plus he really loves when I’m in control). Awesome…we were again able to achieve full penetration while I performed thrusting from the top position. We were both ecstatic! What a wonderful experience it was!

The first attempts at intercourse can be REALLY intimidating (especially when you’re trying to insert a penis that you have no control over). That’s why I believe the woman-on-top position worked so well for us. Hopefully we are working up to a point where I will feel comfortable enough to allow him to move. I believe we will attempt it with me on top and then transition to the missionary position as well. That should provide us an easy transition into male thrusting. 🙂

This has been one of the most amazing experiences! It has been life changing and I am so glad that we found Dr. Pacik and his team! They were able to help us achieve the intimacy that we’ve desired for years now. Thank you so much!

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