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your welcome Jlawl! It is so beneficial to be able to have a space to express anything.
Is anybody having a problem getting the whole dilator in (for example the glass)? I know that i get past the entry muscle and just wonder why i can not push the whole purple (glass equivalent) dilator in, i can push the small blue silicone one in all the way. but as the dilators get gradually longer this no longer is possible. It is not about the width of it for me, but the legnth. Is anyone else experiencing this?

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Hi Jlawl,
Yes I would do the same thing with the purple. The glass purple equivalent is much easier, and you feel it less and you can use silicone lubricant which doesn’t dry up as easily as the water based lubricant. I would recommend for sleeping, it is easier. I still have to try doing chores. I also noticed that if you sit up with it, it doesn’t hurt like the other ones did.
Are you at the beginning of your dilation process? I too felt like it was very expensive but i must say that it was worth it. It is good to have options.

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They are worth the cost because i know that they will be “my best friends” (as someone said) for a long time.

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I have been using the glass dilators, they are so much easier to sleep with than the silicone ones.
In the morning I CAN’T even feel the dilator inside. For me sleeping with the dilator is very important because it makes dilating afterwards so much easier and in the morning the B. muscle feels more loose and stretched, it is a nice feeling.
Also, I began the dilation process with the silicone dilators, I never knew if they were in far enough, with the glass dilators being shorter and the “right’ length, you do not have to wonder if they are in far enough, and you know how much further you need to push the dilator. This has made dilation so much easier for me.
Also, the hollow shape makes it feel so much lighter going in, you do not have this heavier mass, so you do not need to push them as much as the silicone ones.
I also like the shape, the clear glass, they look like ornaments, you can even leave them on your night table as centerpieces!!! I even like the decorative ridge at the bottom, it is really pretty and functional….it no longer bothers your inner thigh.
They are also very easy to clean, like drinking glasses, very smooth.
For those of you who are wondering where to get them (maybe you have not been to Dr. Pacik) you can call his office and order them. I sincerely think that they might be the best i have tried yet and i am on my 3rd pair!! Young’s dilators, Pure Romance, and now these wonderful glass ones!!!

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Mirici,
Have you tried sleeping with the dilators? Even with the Botox, i found that this helped so much. I couldn’t do it from the beginning but now that i can i find there is such a difference. You wake up feeling more loose…and then dilation is so much easier. It might feel uncomfortable at first but in the morning you can no longer feel it.

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I tried using the glass dilators and do chores, but they kept falling out as i got up…is there a trick? I am finding the silicone dilators easier to insert but i am also used to them. The glass ones seem more difficult. Any advice? Salvarez, i love your posts they are so positive and funny.

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Hi Heather,
I travelled to Europe with dilators and had to go through three airports, therefore three security points. I was stopped at each point, at first it was so difficult and they would open the box etc…by the time i arrived in Europe i would just tap one of the security guards and tell them that i had vaginal dilators and just grew tired of my own embarassment….. One security guard came back and actually asked me out of curiosity what they were again…he had forgotten the first explanation. There is no getting around having to show them because they do look like little missiles so your best bet is to take them out yourself and just call one of the women security people and tell her first and let her deal with it. It will make it much easier.

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Hi everyone. I have a quick question about dilating. Does anyone feel that although the dilator is going in, it gets stuck at one point and even if half way in will not go any further. I usually angle it downwards, toward the rectum, and that does seem to help but it feels like i push a half inch in and it comes back a half inch out.
I wonder if i am dilating correctly. Also when sleeping with dilator it seems to slip out even if i wear underwear. My muscles seem to push it out. Is anyone here able to push the whole dilator in or almost in? Can anyone offer some insight to this problem.

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Mary, Good luck with the procedure i am sure it will go well. I admire what you are doing. Just know that you are in very good hands!

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Hello. I was just reading all of these posts and i can completely relate to the fear and worries. I had the procedure done on January 11th and came from Europe to have it done. I was very afraid and did not know what to expect. It was so much better and easier than i thought, and most of all painless. I am realising now even more how great the whole program is. How much it has helped me psychologically and physically. The fact that there are two other women nearby going through the same makes it an incredible experience. I felt that i could see myself in these women and it really helped the part of me that thought i was “abnormal” in some way. Anyway, my fears were severe and i even cried before the procedure but was comforted and reassured by everyone involved.
I am now back in Europe and the dilating is going very well. I never thought i would be able to insert the largest dilator without any fear or anxiety or pain. But it is happening and i feel like i have conquered the world although i have not tried intercourse yet but will soon. If you have severe vaginismus i would completely reccomend this program over many others because it is easier and one is in very good hands. Dr Pacik is brilliant, very professional, humble, human, and very sensitive. He really cares about his patients and continues to be an incredible support.

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