[Bethany]

Hello ladies!

Wow! Can’t believe January is over! Where did time go?!

How are all of the other January patients doing?

I am now 18 days post procedure. Things are going well! The first week or so was kind of rocky. I was very emotional and dilating was still pretty painful. I hadn’t expected a cake-walk, but I don’t feel like I was truly prepared for some of the hurdles I experienced. I recall reading about some patients who reported having successful intercourse 7 or so days after their treatment. I suppose I had that in the back of my head, but I shouldn’t have. Everyone has to go at their own pace! I have to keep reminding myself that I am not trying to break any records or anything! Slow and steady wins the race!

Dilating is now much MUCH easier. I have conquered the #5 and am feeling really comfortable with it. I did attempt #6 a few nights ago and encountered some pain, so I pulled back and bit and will return to try it again probably tomorrow.

I must say that I have found that the glass set of dilators are much more comfortable to wear! I would certainly recommend purchasing them! The #4 in the Pure Romance seems to be okay for me to wear comfortably, but the #5 is much too long. That’s where I switch to using the Glass #5. I also purchased one of the Lilo Liv vibrators. That has proved to be very helpful! I feel like it relaxes my muscles when I used it in transition between #4 and #5. I know that these items do cost some extra money, but I feel like if you are already there spending the money for the procedure, these aides are worthwhile.

All I can say, is stick with it! I found myself losing some hope and feeling discouraged during that first week. My emotions seemed to be all over the place, but as I settled into a routine I have found it much easier to handle. During that first week I found myself wondering if dilating would ever get better and it truly does! It does! Don’t despair! 🙂

If you find you will be staying in the area for a couple days, I would also recommend checking out Portsmouth while you are out there and maybe even a drive up to the Nubble Point Lighthouse in York, Maine. It was beautiful up there and the drive gave my husband and I some time to talk and reflect on my condition, treatment and everything it means for our lives. It was also pretty sentimental for us since we actually went to Maine on our honeymoon, which is when we truly discovered my vaginismus. So, kind of weird how it has all come full circle!

Sending love out to all the January patients and upcoming February patients! 🙂

xoxo
Bethany

[Bethany]

Thank you, Allie.
Your post just made me start weeping!
I just underwent Dr. Pacik’s procedure yesterday. I am just beginning this process, but I have wanted and dreamed of a child (not to mention sex with my husband!) for so long.
It is seeming more possible now, but still so far away. Thank you for the encouragement. And congratulations!

b.

[Bethany]

Hello!

I have my procedure coming up on Monday!! January 13th!
Wow! Cannot believe how this has all fallen in to place and happened so quickly.

Any other patients scheduled for the 13th? I would love to connect a bit before Monday.

Started panicking about dilating a little bit last night. But, had to remind myself that it will not be like my dilating in the past. The pain will not be severe and I just need to take it one day at a time. 🙂

I think I will be using this forum more post-procedure, for tips and advice.

One of my biggest fears is transitioning from dilating to intercourse. My husband and I have been together for 10 years and never had sex! How do we all of sudden start having sex?! Kind of scares me emotionally… I am just praying that God will be preparing my heart and my emotions for this BIG change.

Okay…have to run now! Off to one of my many jobs!

Thanks everyone!

Bethany

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