Hi Vashalla,
I have only been dilating for under a month and am struggling with it. I have motivation problems too, dilating and weight loss… make some progress and somehow think I’m done! Wish it was that easy.
Initiation of intimacy has also been difficult with for my husband and me, even before the vaginal pain started. Neither of us were ever very good at it! The only way change could happen for us was dreaded communication. We had been together for several years before I finally got the guts to start a conversation. It has taken several uncomfortable talks, and probably will take some more, but things have gotten much better. The dreaded, awkward talks got so much easier and have gone from leaving the two of us feeling inadequate to some really fun times! Communication has really saved our relationship, and not just in the bedroom. We communicate in different ways and just figuring that out was a major breakthrough.
I guess I didn’t have much to contribute, but I wish you well climbing your mountain.
