[Tshego27]

I really appreciate your responses. For once I dont feel so alone. Thank you Ladies

[Tshego27]

Hi Recessivegenequeen, I really appreciate your response, with regards to progress, I occasionally give myself a pats on the back but the more pats I give myself the more terrified I am cause of this fear of failure. Maybe things will change once my boyfriend and I attempt to have sex again (crosses finger)

[Tshego27]

Hi, im from South Africa, I have never had penetrative sex before, and the use of fingers is something I didn’t enjoy. I found out last year that I have Vaginismus. I dont think you have facilities in our country but fortunately i found a website called http://www.MYSEXUALHEALTH.co.za they dont particularly use Botox but they prescribe a cream (numb me, repair the nerves in and around my vagina) and dilators. The largest is the 5th dilator, im currently on the 4th one and it took me a month to get to that point, mind you, thats a good thing.

I was constantly told that its all in my head and should drink more wine but somehow I knew there was more to this. Now my question is, considering that I am not using the same method as the people on this group, I have faith that I will overcome Vaginismus but now the closer I get, the more terrified I am that I might fail in achieving the goal because my partner and I tried several times before I started the treatment im currently on. Am i the only one who feels nervous and scared the closer i get to conquering it?

[Tshego27]

Hi, im 23 and found out last year that I have Vaginismas. I have been dilating for over a month now and im currently on the 4th dilation but I do not use any Botox, the Doctor I use, prescribed a cream to help with painful penetration and also help with Vestibulodynia. Im proud of how committed I have been,but lately I have been losing the momentum to dilate. It scares me as to how close I am actually to having sex and it terrifies me because my worry is, what if I dont enjoy sex in general?( the cream I use numbs me and i dont feel much pleasure during dilation, im probably not supposed to) but i have never had penentrative sex in my life and the closer I get, the more terrified I become.

My boyfriend has been proactive and supportive, as a matter of fact, he is the one who found this group and kept encouraging me to join. Im here now and im feel like giving up. i want to have sex with him sooo bad but this dilation process is also frustrating me and the thought of having sex and failing at it, scares me( because we tried several times before we found out we had Vaginismus) I just dont wanna fail again. I dont know what else to do

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