Hey there,
This reply isn’t very helpful for you, but just wanted to let you know I’m 27 and a newly wed and I feel you! It has been a real struggle. And I often want to give up. Just wanted to let you know you aren’t alone and that there are others who feel the same. I’m getting to the point I’m considering going to a physical therapist who specializes in this, as well as possibly a therapist (grew up in a religious home as well as a rape victim) but it seems like both of these might be necessary for me, as doing it on my own hasn’t really worked so far. Praying for you and rooting for you! <3