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My treatment is this coming Tuesday (!) and I don’t feel as anxious as I thought I would…I think it will hit me once we get to the doctor’s office. I am of course scared of the actual treatment and what could go wrong physically as far as the anesthesia, etc. But I am mostly scared of the aftermath. When I didn’t know what vaginismus was and I just had it happening to me, it was awful because I felt helpless…but there was some comfort in that helplessness as this was just happening to me and there was nothing I could do. Now that there is an anwer, this is in my hands and I can do something about it, and that something is scary. I know it sounds backwards but it was easier in a way when I didn’t have any power over my vaginismus because solving this problem is going to open up a can of worms in terms of intimacy, trust, shyness, etc. between my fiance and I. All that stuff has been swept under the rug for years because we weren’t having sex and we’ve become complacent in our lack of power over the problem. Standing up and staring vaginismus in the face is terrifying.

[sunfish7]

I booked the treatment today for the end of July. I am very nervous, but also very excited. I think the hardest thing about vaginismus is all of the emotion that’s tied up in it. Technically it’s a medical condition, but it’s sooooo much more than that, as we all know. I am optimistic, though, and I try to stay in the mindset that it can only get better from here. Thanks so much for everyone’s support. This forum is a really special place 🙂

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I tried discussing it with a friend who I’ve known for about 10 years, and who knew I had trouble with intercourse prior to my learning that it was vaginismus, and she just seemed uncomfortable, like she couldn’t wait for me to stop talking. I was trying to explain the treatment to her, but like I said, it seemed like she just wanted it to be over. At this time, I had just learned about the treatment and was feeling very anxious about what I should do. I’ve also discussed it a little with my mom. She wants to help so she’s open to listening, but it’s still a little uncomfortable. I discussed it also with a work friend and she was open to talking but she’s an extremely open person, especially about sexual matters. I kind of wish I hadn’t told her and kept it more private. All in all, I’ve found that for me personally, it’s better to just keep quiet about my vagnisismus.

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I have been considering treament for a few weeks. I have spoken with Dr. P and he has encouraged me to schedule for the end of July. I am freaking out! I am soooo scared, of the treatment and of the results. I worry that it won’t work for me and that it’s too good to be true. I still feel pretty uncomfortable talking about such intimate details of my sex life/vagina and I wish I could be as open as everyone here. I don’t know that I feel comfortable keeping in such close contact with the doctor after the procedure and providing all of the intimate details of my progress as far as intercourse and my sex life. I’m just really confused. When I first came on here and read about the treatment, I was all for it and felt relieved. Now that I know it might actually happen, I just feel anxious and scared.

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Thank you for being honest about the cost of this procedure. The cost was one of my biggest fears and it really makes me feel confident that you are willing to be up front and not dance around the issue. I’m starting to feel very positive about the possiblity of having the procedure and having it work for me!

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One of my biggest fears when considering this is the fact that Dr. P is male. I’m not trying to be sexist, but the idea of any man other than my fiance (and especially a dr) seeing me and poking around down there freaks me out. I’m sure that Dr. P is very kind and gentle, just as everyone describes him, but it still makes me feel uneasy. Did anyone elso go through this?

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