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Hi! Vaginismus can happen at any age! I was 19 when I got diagnosed I am 21 now! I completely understand how you feel, it can be a very isolating condition especially among people our age, best of luck and let us know if there’s anything else we can help with!

[amyct23]

Hi! I am sooo proud of you for taking those amazing steps in your journey! I completely understand everything you’re going through and I think it’s great that you’re trying to stay positive. This is something I really struggle with so to see someone else being kind to themselves reminds me I need to be kind to myself too! We are all valid despite our imperfections, and like you said, hating it won’t make it go away so we just have to fight it as best we can! I’m so pleased to hear you’ve found a route that suits you and that you are making progress, the first step is always the hardest and so it’s wonderful you’ve got started! Keep us updated and best of luck x

[amyct23]

Thanks guys! These responses have all helped so much, it’s so nice to have a space to speak openly about it as I don’t have that in real life really. I’m still unable to insert that last dilator and everytime I try and fail it makes me feel worse, which in turn makes the problem worse. Thanks for the advice on casual dating/hookups too! I think I’m realising how crappy and inadequate vaginismus made me feel in my relationship with my ex and I don’t want to have to face those feelings of letting someone down until I’m confident in the last dilator. It really makes me feel like I’m not a woman (which I know is stupid) and I dread thinking that future partners will see me like that too. I’m also worried I’ll never get to the last dilator comfortably, I really seem to be at a stalemate.

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Thanks so much for all the responses! They’ve really made me feel much better about everything. I think the main thing I am worried about is that I am not looking for another relationship anytime soon (as I was with my ex since I was quite young at 18) and so would like to engage in casual sex if at all possible. But I am worried that as someone with vaginismus that isn’t something that I’ll ever be able to do! Thanks again for all the help and encouragement. 🙂

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Hi endofmytether,

I know your question about possible NHS treatment was directed at Strega001 but thought I might be able to help. I am also in the UK and was referred straight away to a psycho-sexual clinic on the NHS. I’m sorry that your doctor did not give you the same response – when I first visited my GP about the problem I was also dismissed but when I saw a second doctor a couple of months later I was immediately referred on the NHS so do not believe that there aren’t possible treatments for you on the NHS. My advice would be to visit a different GP if possible and explain your situation, I’m sure they will be happy to help you as mine were with me! All the best of luck. 🙂

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