Spams in upper muscles?

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  • #31545
    katon0333
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    Hi there,

    I’m new to the forum and I’ve spent time reading other post which have been very helpful in learning more about vaginismus and its treatments.

    I have recently purchased a set of dilators and after a month was able to successfully inset the smallest in the set (prior to this the entrance muscles had been fully clamped down for years, so this was the first time I had successfully managed this!). This did lead to a change in my mentality and after the initial by-passing of the entrance muscle I have had no problem inserting the first dilator. Whilst it takes more time and pressure I can also insert the second past the entrance muscle virtually pain free (at most 1/10 pain on some occasions but not every time).

    The issue is the length, the first dilator is just under 3 inches in length and I can insert this fully to the handle with no problems at all. However the second dilator is 3.75 inches but I cannot insert this fully. I probably get around 3 inches inserted and at this point my muscles start clamping down around the dilator, won’t let me insert any further and at times tries to push the dilator out. I think, knowing that the average vagina is around 3.5 inches in length, I am subconsiously afraid of pushing the dilator in too far, hitting the cervix and causing pain which will set my progress back.

    Does the fact that my muscles clamp down when I attempt to insert the dilator past a certain depth sound like I have spasms in the upper muscles that I need to work on overcoming?

    For anyone who has experienced something similar do you think its better to continue using the second dilator and overcome the “length” issue and insert this further, or would I be better moving onto the third size and continue stretching the entrance muscles?

    Thanks in advance!

    #31627
    mmmazemelissa
    Moderator

    I would continue to try to work through the dilators focusing on getting them through the first set of muscles. It is possible, that as you continue to dilate and move bigger, you will also be slowly learning to relax the deeper muscles as well.

    You won’t do any damage inserting a dilator “too far” if you are going slow. The dilator can press up against the cervix without any harm, it might not feel great, but would be ok.

    I would also consider trying to find a dilator that is the same width as the smallest one you have no pain with, but longer. Maybe if you use a very small dilator, but can insert it further, that will also help.

    You might also really benefit from intravaginal valium suppositories to help with the deeper muscle spasm.

    Melissa

    #31664
    HeatherHeather
    Participant

    Hey girl! I had this issue as well! When I finally got to the biggest size dilator, when I would pull the dilator out, I’d get a sharp pain always in the same spot of my vagina and it made me fear using it. So what I did was I took a really tiny dilator, almost the smallest one and I used the tip of the dilator to massage inside my vagina. I’d just go around and around and press gently on my walls. You can also use your finger and just massage around up there, care for your muscles! It’s soothing and helpful! I also used to put a heating pad underneath me, I’d rest my feet on a big pillow and I’d put in a movie and I’d make it the most relaxing as I possibly could! With vaginismus you aren’t just battling those PC muscles but also the fear and anxiety in your brain that isn’t helping you relax those muscles. Work your way up slowly to that size you’re experiencing pain with and I’m sure in no time, you’ll conquer it! You can also try yoga stretches for your pelvic floor muscles! Just Google them because I can’t even begin to explain those on here lol! Also, try this breathing technique! Fill your belly up with oxygen, breathe in deep and slowly and fill your belly instead of your lungs. Once you cannot take anymore oxygen in, hold your breath and put the dilator in. When you exhale, exhale slowly and slowly slide your dilator out, but not all the way. Breathe in deep again through your belly and push it back in slowly. And then exhale slowly, and slide your dilator out slowly. Again, not all the way! Breathing like this and filling your stomach instead of your lungs opens up your vagina more! And the steady breathing will also help relax and calm you. I really hope this works! You can do it!!

    #31696
    katon0333
    Participant

    Thanks Melissa and Heather for the replies. Some really helpful options from both of you! I will work my way through and hopefully one of them will benefit me. It’s maybe a bit of fear of the unknown as well, I’m hoping that as I getting more used to the feeling I will start to become a bit more desensitized. I need to keep thinking positively about the progress I have made so far! Just touching on the yoga option, I have been attending classes for the past 8 months and I do think it has played a part in the small progress I have made already. Thanks again for your advice and support, I really appreciate it!

    #31709
    HeatherHeather
    Participant

    Absolutely! You are in control, not vaginismus! You have exactly the right attitude and you can do this! Goodluck! 🙂

    #31748

    katon0333 – so glad you are seeing some progress, and thank you for sharing your experience with yoga. Attending classes helps to create more awareness of/comfort with your body and encourages flexibility both physically and psychologically. The mindfulness piece is so important as well. Whether it’s one or a combination of these benefits, we’re happy it is helping to make a difference as you move forward!

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