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    Hi Ladies! I am still new to dilating and currently between sizes 1 and 2 in Intimate Rose dilators. Lately, I’ve been experiencing some soreness the day after dilating. This usually happens after I’ve introduced some movement/stretching to my dilating routine. How much soreness is normal? What can I do to prevent it? And does this mean I should stay on the smaller size (Size 1) instead of moving up to Size 2?


    Hi offdutymermaid! Soreness is normal and, while uncomfortable, a part of the dilating process. In fact, it’s a good sign; it’s an indication your muscles are stretching and the dilation process is working! You get more used to the soreness as you continue to dilate and the soreness at a particular size will decrease as you get more used to it and try things out with it (like by wiggling it around, moving it in and out). Once you’re able to insert it and move it pretty comfortably (even if there’s a little bit of soreness) you’re probably good to move to the next dilator size. I recommend dilating with the comfortable size and then moving to the next size up in the same dilation session to get used to it.

    I know it all feels very weird and new, but you’re doing great! Keep up the good work, you should be really proud of yourself!


    The dilation process always comes with some discomfort, pain, soreness, burning. When you are stretching the vaginal opening beyond where it is used to, you will feel something. Usually when you are starting a new dilator size, that sensation is more intense. Patients have described it as a pinch, a burn, stretching feeling, and I usually ask my patients to rate the pain on a scale of 0-10. 0 being no pain at all, 10 being the worst pain ever felt. For many of my patients a new dilator size can feel like an 8/10, but usually after continued use, that level of pain/discomfort/burning/pinching, will reduce. I tell patients when they feel that level is around 2-3, and you feel that you are consistently getting the dilator in with some ease, you are probably ready to try the next size. Sometimes a dilator is not completely pain free until you have inserted a dilator bigger. So if you are using size #2, and you still feel some pain with insertion, that might not completely go away until you start working with size #3.

    This is why we always recommend dilating larger than your partner’s penis. This way he won’t be painful if you are able to insert something bigger than him.

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