[STREGA001]

Thank you regressivegenqueen. I agree my partner was selfish and did not want to put in the effort. He did accompany me to one of my psychosexual appointments before breaking things off two weeks later admitting he himself had intimacy problems… My psychosexual counsellor believed he had issues from his past that he had not dealt with therefore putting a lot of blame and pressure on me. He was really quite insulting toward me at times and blamed it on the lack of sex. But how would I have been able to be intimate with someone who Made me feel
Anxious and was not willing to arouse me?

I had my last psychosexual appointment today and was asked to continue dilating. However I find it hard to do this everyday and we agreed 3 times a week would be sufficient. Do you think that is enough? I feel I have made some progress however still can’t manage the silicone no. 5 fully but have over 3/4 in.

Is there anything else I can do to help me along and feel more comfortable with my Vagina? I want to have a smear test soon too.

Bw.
Strega.

[STREGA001]

Thanks Jennifer for your support. Unfitting my partner was not willing to preserve and get reacquainted to and become intimate. I found this to be the case throughout my journey with him. He just didn’t seem to be I interested to arouse me or make me feel good. He has subsequently left me which I have found very upsetting and feel rejected. I am beginning to realise he was not the right partner for me as he did not want to make effort to try. We tried only twice since the Botox treatment and basically that was trying to him. I am continuing to dilate on the largest silicone dilator but can only get in 70 percent which my psychosexual counsellor seems to think is enough. However I still feel very upset at the behaviour of my ex. He has made me feel so bad and also not desired by him as he said he has no passion for me. I am trying to remain positive that I will get through this and will have sex with a More supportive partner.

[STREGA001]

Thank you Recessivegenqueen.

I have since had the Botox treatment here in London at a private clinic. Although I haven’t really attempted to have sex with my partner as I’m fearful it won’t work. I was able to tolerate tip to size 3 dilator when I went for my follow up a few weeks ago. I’m still dilating at home but I can’t get the larger ones fully in. It’s been 6 weeks since my Botox treatment and my doc encouraged me to try sex but I am worried it won’t work. Also it’s been difficult for us to initiate sex with each other. Any tips?

Thx S001😊

[STREGA001]

Hi,

I am based in uk and I am being referred to pyscho-sexual clinic. However I have had pycho sexual therapy years ago, although was not in a relationship at the time. I was told to use the dilators but they looked so scary I didn’t even attempt them as I cannot even insert a tampon. However I was able to insert 2 fingers so can you overcome vaginisum without using dilators, like using your fingers instead?

[STREGA001]

Hi.

This is a very reassuring story to hear. As I cannot insert the dialstors in me but can insert 2 fingers sideways some maybe I should continue trying to insert more fingers slowly?

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