[Merida]

Hi Chloe, I’m currently attempting to treat my vaginismus in the UK, I have to say unfortunately NHS psychosexual health services are just overrun. I dropped out of vaginismus treatment soon after I was first diagnosed three years ago as they’re just not able to give the regular follow-up I needed to help my struggles with avoidance at these specialists NHS clinics (see my blog post Doctor Says Relax on here for the full sorry saga). I’m finally making some small progress with dilators after finding the support I needed on this forum, although my vaginismus does not sound as severe as yours (I’ve been able to insert a tampon, with discomfort, reasonably successfully about 60-70% of the time I try).
I don’t have any particular experience with botox, but I definitely do feel your pain dealing with overrun NHS services.
I was about your age when I was diagnosed and you should know that you are definitely not alone, I have found this forum so helpful to gain knowledge and support dealing with my vaginismus.

[Merida]

I want to thank everyone for their comments, you really helped prevent me from taking a step backwards after that horrendous doctors appointment.

I have been dilating consistently every day for the past 2.5 months. The longest I’ve ever dilated consistently before that is about 9 days (which sounds ridiculous when I actually think about it since it’s three years since I got my dilators) so this is the longest I’ve ever dilated for by a long shot.

Yesterday I also managed to move up to the size 3 dilator for the first time, which has always been way too much for me in the past. It’s uncomfortable but not painful, and feels like a real step forward.

I’m still struggling dealing with negative feelings around sex, and I think I will probably get some therapy sessions in the future to help with this. But it feels like I’m making actual progress in my vaginismus treatment for the first time.

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