Hello to all,
I’m Lilian 31 years old from Iran. I got married about 5 months ago. I was virgin at the time I got married, so I was having my first real sex with my husband. As my hymen had a septum in the middle, it was so painful when it got torn (actually after several tries) but there was no complete penetration. I had bleeding for several days and then I got infection which was fixed by using antibiotics.
After that we’ve never succeeded for even little penetration because of the big pain I was feeling. My gynecologist said that the remaining of your hymen is got bigger (something like fibrosis) and needs to be removed so she suggested me to do a Hymenectomy. I did the surgery but nothing changed.Even when my husband tries to put his finger inside me I feel a lot of pain.
Most of the solutions which are talked here are not applicable in Iran (for example selling dilators are prohibited), so it makes everything even harder for me. on the other hand my husband is not that patient, sometimes he gets angry which makes me feel so depressed and incomplete. I’m really confused and I don’t know where should I start from. It would be very nice if any of you give me any ideas.
Many thanks.
