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@sexlessinseattle The problem is there is not really that much a gyn can do about it, besides sending you to a pelvic floor therapist. Yes, they can use a smaller speculum, go slow, etc… and I agree you should tell the gyn about your condition so he/she is aware of the issues… but at the end the exam still has to take place. You can make it easier, but you can’t avoid it. That’s what I meant with “suffer through it”. If you’re still in the process of dilating, or worse, you didn’t start therapy yet, and you can’t have sex with your partner, an internal exam WILL be difficult. No matter what your gyn does. You have to be honest about that too.

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@anna2021 Thank you for sharing your story.

I think we all underestimate the impact vaginismus can have on our partner.

About the prostate infections, I remember having seen a study which revealed there is a link between prostatitis and vaginismus. If my memory serves me right, the fact men don’t ejaculate for a prolonged period of time can actually cause this. We often think that all males masturbate, but that is far from true. Millions and millions of men don’t masturbate for religious reasons, and those men suffer extra hard when their partner is diagnosed with vaginismus.

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I’m sorry to say this, but I think all vaginismus patients struggle with this. Some of us take a tranquilizer, others ask if they can insert the speculum themselves. I always told the gyn he needed to use the smallest speculum, but in all honesty, it usually came down to “suffer through it”. Why don’t you consider pelvic floor therapy? Are you seeing a pelvic floor specialist?

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