I have been struggling really hard with sitting while I’m dilating, and I can’t be the only one! I couldn’t do it! At all! So I came up with a somewhat creative way to comfortably sit with a dilator. I’m sure many of our ladies have already come up with this and suggested it on the forum, but so far I haven’t seen it. I bought a travel neck pillow that you would use in a car or on a plane. It is my new best friend! If you sit on the neck pillow so that it supports your butt and thighs, the neck hole takes all the pressure off the dilators while you are sitting. I’m not sure whether my husband now thinks I’m nuts or a genius. LOL!