Hi Glumbumble. Dr. Pacik or Ellen would probably know the most about this question but here are a few of my thoughts as a formerly treated patient. I believe that the dilators are a completely different stretching experience than the dildo that you described. What helped me so much in the beginning post-procedure is practicing with progressive dilation with the silicone “pure romance” dilators. For example, I would begin with the medium purple and leave this one in for around 30 minutes. Thereafter, I would insert the next sized pink and leave this one in for around 30-60 minutes. And, finally, I would insert the next sized largest blue and leave this one in for 60 minutes. I would also sleep with either the purple or pink “pure romance” dilator every other night. This is what worked the best for me but everyone’s dilation schedule varies. If you haven’t already, I would definitely suggest contacting Dr. Pacik to discuss treatment options. This is the one treatment that worked to cure my vaginismus after so many years of suffering and I would recommend it to everyone. Hope this helps!