So, your 10-year old finds your vibrator….

Is your child finding your vibrator your worst fear?

Here’s a story a patient just relayed to me: Her 10-year old son, now 24, was digging through her night table and pulled out her vibrator. It was penis shaped. She saw him shaking and rattling it. In horror, but trying to remain calm, she said:” Ummm…What are you doing?” He said: “This is so cool. I’m trying to get it to work.” A bit taken aback she said: “What exactly do you think that is?” He looked at her as if she were a bit doddy and said: “Mom! It’s a weenie flashlight!”

Once again, it just goes to show that kids absorb just as much information as they are ready for and not much more!

In the meantime, her 24 year old son is getting married and she is considering giving his new wife, her very own “weenie flashlight.”

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Bat Sheva Marcus, LMSW, MPH, PhD

Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus is a certified sex therapist and the Clinical Director of Maze Women’s Sexual Health, one of the largest centers for women’s sexual health in the country. Dr. Marcus wrote her dissertation on women and vibrator use while earning her Doctor of Philosophy in human sexuality from the Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She also has a Master’s in public health from the same institution. She is a licensed social worker with a Master’s degree from Columbia University. Dr. Marcus has worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices and laboratories. In addition to being featured in a NY Times article, she is a frequent guest on radio, podcasts and has lectured both nationally and overseas on a wide variety of women's issues.
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