A patient was commenting how much better she was feeling…more desirous, more desiring, more easily turned on. “But I just don’t feel like I used to when I was a teenager” she bemoaned. When pressed she couldn’t seem to come up with a better description of what was missing. A bit later, during our appointment we were recommending that maybe every morning she spend a minute or two reading erotica to get herself turned on and her thoughts turned to sex. “Oh no.” She said…“I don’t let myself get turned on unless I can ‘do something with it.” I suggested that maybe walking around turned on without “doing something with it” could be fun and sexy and get you more in the mood. Suddenly a light bulb went off in her head. “Maybe that’s what I’ve been missing!! I used to walk around turned on all the time…” hmm… maybe we’ve all gotten a bit too goal oriented and lost some of the fun of the “process” in the process!
On just plain being turned on.
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Bat Sheva Marcus, LMSW, MPH, PhD
Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus is a certified sex therapist and the Clinical Director of Maze Women’s Sexual Health, one of the largest centers for women’s sexual health in the country. Dr. Marcus wrote her dissertation on women and vibrator use while earning her Doctor of Philosophy in human sexuality from the Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She also has a Master’s in public health from the same institution. She is a licensed social worker with a Master’s degree from Columbia University. Dr. Marcus has worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices and laboratories. In addition to being featured in a NY Times article, she is a frequent guest on radio, podcasts and has lectured both nationally and overseas on a wide variety of women's issues.
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