After nearly 9 years in practice there are some things I can say fairly absolutely. Here’s one: there is absolutely no correlation between looking sexy and being sexy! I can have a woman in my office who any guy would say “oh mg-d she looks soooooo hot…like she’s really into it.” (It may be her body, more likely it’s her clothes, her neckline, her makeup, her hairstyle whatever.) And that very same woman is as likely as not to look at me and say “I have no desire, none, nada. I couldn’t care less if I never had sex again…and men think I’m so sexy” Then I get your average soccer mom who is swinging from the chandeliers with her partner. Or one of my favorite patients, a 60 year old cute but average, chubby single women who is currently carrying on an affair with a 30 year old, a 42 year old and her lover of 32 years, a 65 year old pianist. You would never know!! So I suppose in this way, as in others, you can’t judge a book by it’s cover — or it’s cover’s neckline.
Who’s hot and who’s not.
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Bat Sheva Marcus, LMSW, MPH, PhD
Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus is a certified sex therapist and the Clinical Director of Maze Women’s Sexual Health, one of the largest centers for women’s sexual health in the country. Dr. Marcus wrote her dissertation on women and vibrator use while earning her Doctor of Philosophy in human sexuality from the Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She also has a Master’s in public health from the same institution. She is a licensed social worker with a Master’s degree from Columbia University. Dr. Marcus has worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices and laboratories. In addition to being featured in a NY Times article, she is a frequent guest on radio, podcasts and has lectured both nationally and overseas on a wide variety of women's issues.
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