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Recessive Gene Queen:

I have done some therapy on the breakup issues but not so much about my fears on how new partners will view this but i do believe in doing “emotional work” and i go to some practitioners who help with releasing the trapped emotions.

I’m really appreciative of your support in answering questions and interacting. It is very high consciousness like thoughtfulness and i do hope that i can meet someone who has empathy skills like you are demonstrating.

have you been able to make progress on your condition and feel more comfortable in relationships because of that? Is your therapist a “sex” therapist or just general?

thanks

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sks823:

thank you for your comments and sharing the story of your former partner with ED. For myself, i can still get erections (thank g-d) but they are not as strong because only one side of the penis is essentially filling up. So that just means one with this condition has to be more careful and we did do other forms of sex like oral and mutual stimulation which was very rewarding and i had no complaints. I don’t know why but after someone leaves without explanation or cheats it makes you question everything and if you know you have a weakness then for me anyway it brought this up as both a question mark and a sense of loss. Plus i feel uncomfortable talking about it and there really aren’t any good forums for single men who are going through this. So I appreciate the feedback here! I guess I wasn’t really sure what you ladies thought of the situation so it is good to have been able to run it by the opposite gender. Thank you so much. And I hope you’re right that i will find someone who treats me better. Strange but i still miss the before getting off meds woman and that’s whats difficult.

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RGQ

thank you for your re-assurance.

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Thank you for your feedback! It’s wonderful that you had and now have a partner that accepts you. I don’t know how long ago you met your current partner but it seems like the world has gone upside down in the last 3-4 years. I’m in relationship group forums as part of my healing and there are just a ton of couples out there experiencing different issues and many are reporting a partner straying.

In regard to me, I developed Peyronie’s disease which for men is akin to women having fibroids in the uterus or endometriosis. It’s interesting that many men with this condition seem to report that if they are single that women DON”T accept them for this condition. I think what was very difficult and heart breaking about my ex is that she did accept me for this condition initially because she thought it was a good match for her with her issues. I thought we were “two peas in a pod” so to speak. Her ex husband refused to have sex with her (apparently). When she got off the meds she became very different in alot of ways. I also have spoken to people since then that have family members that have bi-polar disorder. One woman told me her sister went from saint to sleeping around alot. So i looked it up and yes some bi-polar people can get hyper-sexual but not for the sex but for the high of the attention and to distract them from other negative thoughts that they are having.

Anyway, moving forward i thought maybe a guy like me would be best paired with a woman who wasn’t going to be so inclined to judge a man for his penis if she herself didn’t want to be judge for what she could or could not do sexually. I guess this is part of my healing to learn about these things. Thank you for sharing your story about finding loving partners. I hope that i do/will encounter women who are looking for a man for who he is rather then what he has. It’s just overwhelming when you look at the stats about affairs and cheating these days to even think that a healthy man or woman can find a healthy minded partner let alone someone who has a health condition.

Thanks for sharing!

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