[maisiemaisie]

Thank you for your reply!! I’m just feeling so not-normal lately and it’s driving me crazy. Sex isn’t a happy, nice thing anymore, it’s just frustrating. And I’ve become paranoid lately that my boyfriend is getting impatient with me (though he’s really not, and he’s been absolutely perfect through everything, which even makes me feel even more guilty) that I can’t even enjoy the other things we’ve always enjoyed.

Lately I’ve honestly just felt like forgetting about it, it might not be worth the struggle, is that a normal feeling?

[maisiemaisie]

Hi everyone, I’m a new member, not entirely sure how to go about this so thank you for your patience! I’m 21, and I only decided to have sex for the first time about a year ago with my boyfriend. At that stage we’d been together for a year and I was very comfortable with him, and I took the first time’s difficulties with penetration just as first-time nerves. But we tried for months and I thought something was wrong with me, which is why I went to the doctor. My boyfriend has been perfectly patient and kind and has come to the doctor with me and has tried absolutely everything to help us both get through this, but I have to admit I’ve been feeling guilt making him go through this with me.

She was able to do an exam, I was really glad, but it was extremely painful. She asked me if penetration was painful and I said no, because it was literally like hitting a brick wall – as in, penetration just wasn’t happening. It couldn’t get to the stage for it to be painful, if that makes sense? She diagnosed it as vaginismus, and prescribed anti-anxiety medication and said that it SHOULD work but so far, it hasn’t, and I’m getting a bit hopeless. She said if it didn’t work we could look into dilators so I’m glad I have a lot of options.

I decided to join this forum because I wanted to ask if it was normal to lose hope, and even interest in sex at this stage? I just don’t enjoy anything to do with sex anymore, and even doing the things we usually do, I can’t enjoy it anymore because I get so into my own head.

I wanted to ask if anyone had any advice for just wanting to keep going with it? I know it will work out eventually, especially if I keep going with my treatement, which I intend to do, but at this stage I just don’t think I want to.

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