Congratulations Katie. Thanks for your wonderful post with all the detail. I hope some of the others will share their stories how long they dilated after treatment.
I normally recommend weaning off dilation after about 6 months, but do encourage some dilation for about a year to avoid regression. Every person is different and you have the experience to “read” your body. Any time there is difficulty with penetration, or pain with sex, it simply is an indication that more dilation is needed for some period of time.
Getting pregnant is yet another challenge after overcoming vaginismus. As we all know, and as you stated, it will happen when it is meant to be.
It has been a joy helping you and your honey!