I usually hear this from the women whose libidos are low and don’t want sex at all. Both they and their husbands have decided he needs sex every day. The truth is, that in my experience, sex everyday is a fantasy that most men have. But when it comes to reality…you know what? It’s a bit better for them in fantasy then in reality. They get tired too. They get stressed too. They are busy too. In a few cases, when the women’s libido were back to normal, I suggested they try an experiment and have sex every day. (I suggested they not tell their husbands about the experiment but just initiate sex every day.) In almost every case it took 2-3 weeks, at which point the husbands said “Sweetie, I love you, but not tonight.” The truth is, that like almost everything else in life, when you can’t have it, it seems like you can never have enough. When you know you can have as much as you want, things become more real and focused and you find that you don’t need to have all of it all the time in order to feel satisfied. It’s a great experiment for those of you who are up to it. It makes men realize that maybe 1 or 2 or 3 or 4 times a week is really okay for them…and let’s women see that maybe their husbands are not the sex maniacs they thought they were.
My husband wants sex everyday.
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Bat Sheva Marcus, LMSW, MPH, PhD
Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus is a certified sex therapist and the Clinical Director of Maze Women’s Sexual Health, one of the largest centers for women’s sexual health in the country. Dr. Marcus wrote her dissertation on women and vibrator use while earning her Doctor of Philosophy in human sexuality from the Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She also has a Master’s in public health from the same institution. She is a licensed social worker with a Master’s degree from Columbia University. Dr. Marcus has worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices and laboratories. In addition to being featured in a NY Times article, she is a frequent guest on radio, podcasts and has lectured both nationally and overseas on a wide variety of women's issues.
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