[Lauren86]

So I would usually dilate laying flat first and then start with the basic missionary position very slowly. Once my partner was able to get it in almost fully we would switch to me on top. The dilators are very stiff so any movements with them I always found challenging. Also something that may be helpful- Dr Pacik suggested a long time ago- he told me to use the dilators and either have my partner or alone ( maybe alone first) try to use them as pleasurable either with a vibrator or your fingers just so there is not so much negative connotation and “work” associated with them. I tried that a few times and it helped me relax once I was with my
Partners and I was able to actually enjoy sex.

As for the lube- it’s sooo hard to tell how much you need isnt it- lol!

[Lauren86]

Hi There-

I had the Botox injections 5 years ago and still intermittently dilate especially when not in a steady relationship. Intercourse is always tricky and certain positions I find hurt
More than others. I find I also have he same control issues and putting my legs up on my partners shoulders typically is not an option I am comfortable with and it leads to deeper penetration. I find being on top allows me to have the most control and helps my partner focus on something else other than maintaining an erection since we typically have to do all the work (lol). I am now 31 and have been dealing with this for 14 years. It is so much more psychological than physical for both parties. Best of luck to you- with time and perseverance you will get there!!

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