Hi bosox2004. This is a great question. In the immediate days/weeks post-procedure, I always dilated with the largest size pure romance dilator for a long period of time and also used tons of lube prior to intercourse. In doing this, my hubby did notice that I felt a bit loose/more open. I addressed this with Dr. Pacik and Ellen and they suggested decreasing the time that I dilated prior as well as the size of the dilator and also the amount of lubricant. I did this and it worked wonders for us and my hubby noticed the difference right away. I hope this helps. I would definitely send Dr. Pacik or Ellen an e-mail to hear their thoughts here as well. Ladies, do you have any additional thoughts here?