Hi Becca. I wanted to share a couple of helpful links with you:

2 Part Blog from Dr. Pacik concerning helpful tips on enhancing libido:
Part I: http://www.vaginismusmd.com/low-libido-improve-desire-improve-life-part-one/
Part II: http://www.vaginismusmd.com/low-libido-improve-desire-improve-life-part-two/

Libido Issues thread with helpful tips from Darcy Donahue, Certified Sex Therapist: http://www.vaginismusmd.com/vaginismus-md-forum/?mingleforumaction=viewtopic&t=102

I am so sorry for what you are currently experiencing. Please know that I am here for you always!!!