Hi innezzz!
You brought up a GREAT topic, and I think I can help! My Mother and I were in the same boat when I was younger. Tampons scared me, so I never used them. I thought that maybe when I was older I’d be ready. But then I got ny first yeast infection, and my Mom had bought me Monistat, the tube you insert into your vagina. I couldn’t do it and I was scared and in a lot of pain. I wasn’t ready at the time, to face that. I knew I had something wrong down there but didn’t even know what it was or how to bring it up, or even describe it. I chalked it up to being young, and said I’d grow out of it when I got older. I didn’t! But I’m cured now. I really think the best thing you can do for her, is let her explore her body on her time, when she feels safe and comfortable enough to do so. Maybe you could have a conversation with her, leaving vaginismus out(it could cause fear or paranoia) and just let her know that she is safe to come to you with any questions about her body. I think it’s amazing that you are paying such close attention to her, she’s a lucky gal to have you as a Mom. And I really hope she never ever has to deal with vaginismus in her life!! Tampons are scary and uncomfortable when just starting out. I’d let her give them another try, on her time. I know a lot of females who don’t and never had vaginismus, that just don’t like tampons because they feel uncomfortable and even hurt. If somehow she DOES have vaginismus, she would have to decide when to get treatment. It took me a LONG time to be ready to dilate. I really think allowing her time to learn her body would be great! I hope this helps 🙂