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Hi Jaclynfich! I think it’s amazing that you’re sticking to your dilating! It’s perfectly okay to take a 2-3 day break from dilating. But I wouldn’t suggest going longer than that! Take a 2 day break, and attempt dilating on the 3rd day. If you are still too sore, dilate the next day. I found this very helpful, and relieving when I was dilating. It’s a very nice physical break, as well as mental. I think it’s important to dilate daily, but if you’re experiencing pain that keeps you from doing so, a break is important. Honestly, I get really sore after sex sometimes, especially if I do it more than once in a day and I use an icepack. I put it right on my vagina, with a paper towel to protect my skin and 20 minutes later I feel so much better! What I found to help with dilating is Googling yoga stretches to help with pelvic tension. Yoga stretches for the pelvic floor. And breathing techniques to open your pelvic floor. Basically, with the breathing, you’re going to breathe in deep. You want your stomach to raise as high as you can and breathe in until you can’t take anymore air in. At that point, you’ll put your dilator in. I couldn’t begin to explain the stretches but I highly suggest Googling them! I hope this helps!! Good luck!