Seeking Resourses

[rjaye32]

My husband and I have been suffering from a (to us) somewhat strange sexual problem for the past few years. Three times he has injured his penis while having intercourse seemingly from overt tightness in my vagina. (I was diagnosed with vaginismus) The injuries have been fairly severe, with the most severe lasting 1.5 years of pain. I have gone to see a local OBGYN as well as gone for pelvic floor physical therapy. I am looking for resources both to help solve my vaginismus and his pain. Thank you for your help in advance.

[recessivegenequeen]

Rjaye32, I’m sorry for the pain both you and your husband have endured! I can’t speak at all to his issue unfortunately (though there are some doctors in these forums who hopefully can), but we know a lot about vaginismus around here! My first suggestion would be to click around these forums and start reading about some of your options, especially dilating or the botox treatment. I also found the book “When Sex Seems Impossible: Stories of Vaginismus & How You Can Achieve Intimacy” by Peter Pacik to be a helpful explanation of vaginismus as well as how botox works:
https://www.amazon.com/When-Sex-Seems-Impossible-Vaginismus-ebook/dp/B004GNFTNU

Most women start treatment by attempting to dilate and seeing how far they get so they can get a better sense of the severity of their vaginismus and what treatment options might work best for them. I used the Pure Romance set, which I was very happy with:
https://www.pureromance.com/shop/sex-health/vaginal-dilator-tapered-silicone-dilators

I hope this helps! Let us know if you have questions or want to tell us more about your situation. I’m glad you DO have a diagnosis and are able to start seeking out options for yourself!

[Leslie Turner, WHNP, CNM]

hi Rjaye32,
I love recessivegenequeen’s suggestions for resources about vaginismus to check out. As far as your partner, I recommend that he see a good urologist for an evaluation. Your GYN provider could give you a referral.

Also, are you still doing pelvic PT? Your PT can help support and advise you with dilation as well.

Keep us posted. This forum is a great resource and place to get support and encouragement as you heal vaginismus.

[rjaye32]

Thank you for your responses.

Yes, I am still doing pelvic PT. I find that it is helpful for awhile, but has not been a permanent fix.

[Leslie Turner, WHNP, CNM]

Hi Rjaye32,
Good to hear that you are still doing pelvic PT. We recommend at home dilation in addition to in-office sessions; many of our patients find that helpful in progressing to larger sizes.
keep us posted.
Wishing you all the best!