There is no special way to insert dilators. The dilator is angled towards the rectum and then curves up towards the cervix. There are many ways this can be done, including lying down, a squatting position or having one leg on a chair. Another method of insertion is to “screw” it in much like the rotation of a screw. It is always good to have your partner help you to give up some of the control when preparing for intercourse. Any position for intercourse can be used during the dilation process. Light thrusting of the dilator can also be done by your partner when you are ready.
Hi bubbly77, when I first started dilating I found that sitting up on the bed (my back propped up with pillows while watching tv) was the most comfortable for me. I use lots of surgi-lube and slowly insert the dilator. When I felt like it wouldn’t go in I would leave the dilator there and take deep breaths and do a couple of kegel exercises and tried again, applying a little more pressure. After awhile it seemed to go in a little bit more each time.