Hi Lifi,
I know this post is a bit old, did you find any solutions? I noticed a similar feeling after I stopped using the numbing cream with the lubricant recently. The dilators still go in fine, but I feel sort of a sharp pain towards the top of the dilator when I walk around with it, kind of like being poked.
I know Dr. Pacik likes to to get off the numbing cream as soon as possible because we don’t need it, but would it be bad to actually keep using it? Maybe after a break, i.e your period, a little numbing cream could reduce pain while the muscles loosen up again?