Dr. Pacik

This is a complex issue and an excellent question. Everyone has their own opinions when it is appropriate to be sexually involved. This opinion is based on so many aspects including upbringing, religious beliefs and personal convictions. Certainly my vaginismus patients would somehow like to know if it is even possible. Women with vaginismus are often insecure in their sexuality knowing full well the pain experienced with most forms of penetration including non-sexual events such as the use of a tampon or GYN exam. Yet we are all guided by our own innate wisdom and relying on this is perhaps the best advice you can give yourself. Let your inner being be your guide and be truthful to its wisdom.

Elliotte writes

Allow time to build trust and see how he handles smaller issues.

I think this is very true and yet another way of processing these thoughts.