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This is excellent advice Vashalla. When I was dating in college, well before meeting my now husband, I tried not to let it get as far as “the conversation” but if it ever did, I said that I was extremely tight which made sex painful. After saying this, I still tried due to a little “liquid encouragement” with a boyfriend or 2 which ended up very bad. It didn’t work which caused me to cry and him to be very frustrated. I definitely like the idea of being more open like you suggested and if I still had vaginismus and were dating in college right now, I probably would use the last line and explain that my muscles contract so much down there that it makes sex very painful but then note that the condition is highly treatable. Then, like you mentioned, I would probably direct him to the Men’s section of this Forum that answers so many questions that he may have. Great, great post.