Hi Hello676 – I’m so sorry to hear about this continual painful tearing, that kind of recurrent pain around sex can be so distressing and make a person feel hopeless, especially when you’ve looked for help in so many places. Our bodies change in a lot of ways as we age that have weird effects which bring on issues with things we used to have no problem with. The skin of your vagina may have gotten more sensitive over time (even to birth control) because of the aging process. I’m sure you’ve tried a lot of things but I hope you will keep seeking answers because you don’t deserve to be in this much pain! There are a lot more causes for vaginal pain than even most gynecologists are familiar with. I hope you can find relief and answers soon.