Frederique1999, I like that you emphasized that you LEARNED to do this – there’s a lot of ways in which it might not feel natural to masturbate in front of your partner that require unlearning to make your way to a more satisfying sex life. We have a lot of unhelpful preconceptions about how sex “should” look based on the media we consume (whether that be romantic movies or porn or whatever else) and most of them do NOT portray what actually works. Going back to basics and applying some structure/systems to your intimate life can do a lot for partnerships, but that requires work that we aren’t always expecting to have to do. So glad to hear it’s worked for you frederique1999!