Hi annefrance! I am so sorry to read that story. I actually got the hymen procedure done and didn’t have any issues. Super easy! I wasn’t too sore either. Maybe dilation would help you? However, when I got my procedure done… Melissa from here at Maze had told me my hymen was way too thick and that my partner would never be able to break it on his own. I would try dilating first, gently of course. Maybe after a fee sessions, you’ll be able to stretch easier and accommodate a penis more comfortably as well as pop your hymen hopefully!