Reply To: Frustration and vaginismus

[recessivegenequeen]

Even if you have vaginismus, it’s still totally possible to be aroused (as everyone here has described). It’s definitely harder for a lot of women with vaginismus to have an orgasm though, often because being aroused is negatively associated with the pain of attempted penetration, so all the feelings and anxieties around that stimulation can make you too distracted to have an orgasm.

If you’re younger and haven’t had an orgasm yet, one possibility is that you haven’t gotten the right stimulation. I highly recommend getting some kind of external vibrator to use on your clitoris – it’s often the case if you’re with less experienced partners or haven’t spent a ton of time exploring your own body that you just haven’t been exposed to the right sensations to cause an orgasm yet. Maze has a guide on buying the right dilator here:

How to Choose a Vibrator Video Series