Hi littlebear – thanks so much for sharing your story with us!
It is so, so helpful for women who experience vaginismus to hear from others with similar challenges. It’s equally helpful for women to share solutions!
Everyone experiences the condition in their own way, and the same goes for treatment. For those who would like to have penetrative sex with a partner someday, the final challenge is intercourse (READERS: please note that everyone has their own objectives for treatment). And as you so well articulated, this part can be a real hurdle for those who are single.
You, littlebear, sought guidance and employed creativity to meet your goals. While the partner you had intercourse with isn’t someone with whom you’re romantically interested, you were both aware of the situation, you were both consenting adults, and it sounds like he was a supportive, patient and understanding sexual partner.
With a foundation of safety and consent, women with vaginismus should seek out creative ways in which to reach their goals, according to their unique needs and preferences.
Congrats, littlebear – we’re so happy to hear about your success!