Reply To: I keep scaring men away

[recessivegenequeen]

Hi km8899 – I just want to back these ladies up and say that you should not give up on the idea of partnership! Dating with vaginismus is hard, but there really are men out there who will pleasantly surprise you. It can also help to take more control of how you share this information – a mistake I made often was nervously putting off the revelation of my vaginismus until we were already getting physical and it made things awkward and made me seem like I had something to be ashamed of. I wish I’d been up front about it early and reassured those partners that I was interested in being sexual with them even though penetration wasn’t currently an option. Plenty of people will still be interested!