Hi Gemini, Congratulations on how far you have come and I agree with the suggestions made by recessivegenequeen. When a couple has been dealing with vaginismus for some time, a lot of feelings may come up. Transitioning to intercourse may also bring up some pent up emotions that your “patient partner” wouldn’t allow himself to feel. Now that you are at the end of the tunnel and have a glimpse of the light there may be some feelings emerging. It can be helpful to talk with your partner and to allow for both of you to have your feelings and be attuned to the other person’s as well. Perhaps on a practical level have him just insert his penis and remove it and let that be a win! Taking small steps toward having the complete intercourse experience may be helpful and build trust that it won’t be painful….
Let us know how things are going.
All the best,