Thank you so much for this brave post.
First I want to say good riddance to the November guy…anyone who will cheat on you after a month of dating sounds like a total jerk anyway, and not sure it has to do with your vaginismus!
I get why you worry it might scare a guy away, but I think you bringing it up in the beginning was the right plan for you.
Honesty is so important in a relationship. And intercourse is not the only way to have sex and experience pleasure.
I encourage you to continue to be open with this partner, as well as seek treatment to over come vaginismus.
Vaginismus is curable if you put the work in.
If you haven’t tried dilators, I would get a kit. If you have the ability to see a pelvic floor physical therapist, make an appt.
We are here to support you! Keep us posted.