Hi Sarah – welcome to the forums, and I’m so sorry you haven’t had luck with the dilators yet. I was never able to use them on my own and ended up needing to get the botox procedure at Maze to help. You might seriously consider giving them a call at 914-328-3700 for a free consultation or filling out the form at the bottom of this page – it’s free and you can discuss whether this might be an option for you.
How big is the smallest dilator in your kit? Being able to insert a tampon is definitely a start, and my dilator kit had a dilator that was definitely smaller than a tampon so maybe the smallest size is just too big? When you’re new it’s best to work with a TINY one and a lot of sets (like the kit from Pure Romance) have slim ones to start.