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Hi Lorift! Congratulations on getting help and starting to dilate! I have dilated in the past after getting the botox procedure, which speeds up the timeline, but I’ve also read quite a lot about the regular rhythm of it.

A lot of people would tell you that the best schedule for dilating is to do it every day, even if it’s just for a few minutes. It gets your body really used to having something inside of you and gives the muscles consistent opportunities to stretch out. I think on larger sizes of dilators it’s normal to work with one size for a week or so (and during that time getting increasingly good at putting in and taking out the dilator and wiggling it around inside you). Once you feel pretty comfortable and confident with that size, you can start a new session with the size you’re comfortable with and move up to the new one of a bigger size and repeat the same process until you reach the largest size!

Even if you can’t dilate every day, frequency can really help as it also (in my opinion) makes it easier to notice that there will be good days and bad days even as you make progress, so it’s important to keep going even after a less successful session.

You’ve already made a lot of progress and I’m excited for you to make more! Let us know if you have any other issues!