Re: What your patients do not want to hear

[Heather34]

I had trouble keeping my legs open for any gynecological examination due to severe anxiety. My ob/gyn became immediately frustrated and told me that my muscles were unusually tight and she had never seen such strong muscles.

Other comments, in no particular order:

“You know what, I’m going to use the baby speculum” (which never worked)

“There’s nothing physically wrong with you”

“There must be something wrong with your relationship”

“Just tell yourself sex won’t hurt and it will be okay”

“I won’t examine you again until you receive sex therapy. Here is the name of a sex therapist that I recommend. After you see her, you can come back to try an exam.”