Thank you for this valuable post lulu. When asking around for a new gynecologist there is nothing wrong in asking if the doctor treats (or even understands) vaginismus before making the appointment. When arriving at a new appointment bring along your dictated summaries of both the consultation and treatment. You can also bring along one of the scientific articles posted on the website:
Some of my patients purchase extra books “When Sex Seems Impossible” to give to their doctor(s).
An open conversation about this problem serves everyone well in making vaginismus more well known.