Hi Bosox! Thank you sooo much for responding, I really appreciate it! Weve tried marriage counseling twice, once before and once during the time of my procedure. Ive also tried individual counseling twice and even a psychiatrist once pre procedure who told me to relax, have a glass of wine and a cigar??? So im hesitant intrying again mostly because it never worked before… I am interested in more info though…im a nerd and I research everything before I do it lbvs… ummm how can we swap personal emails??? Or maybe can we dm each other within the forum??? Thanks again, your post really gave made a bright spot in my day. Ttyl – Alyx