Hi Alyx! I wish I could give you a great big hug because I have (and sometimes still am!!!) been there!!!!! My hubby’s sexual frustration was the driving force for my procedure; we were on the brink of a divorce and that was our last effort. I too had tried many other things that just simply did not work. Even though I have made great progress, some days I still want to cry for the years my husband and I lost to V. Years we can never get back. Years where we were in the prime of our lives where he in his 20’s was at his peak sexual drive. It’s very hard to accept. All this being said, I will say that I have been seeing a WONDERFUL therapist who has helped me and my husband more than words can say; she has helped me accept the past and move onto the future. We see her individually and as a couple and it has literally changed our lives. It is THE hardest thing I have ever done but it’s so very rewarding. I often tell her that I would take a Botox shot in my vagina ANY day over the mental, emotional, spiritual, and psychological “dilating”. While I still don’t have the sex life of my dreams – I have become so much closer to my husband and found myself along the way. I’m not sure if you would be interested in seeing a therapist but if you are, her name is Anita Hoffer (she actually is active on the forum and comes highly recommended from the Pacik’s!). I am fortunate enough that I can drive to her office but she also Skypes. There have been times due to schedules, illness, bad weather, etc that we have had to Skype and it works just fine. She is VERY VERY VERY familiar with V and the impact it has on EVERY area of a couple’s life; she also gets how the man and woman each responds differently. And lastly, she understands and knows what it takes to resolve those hurt feelings and get you on the path to healing. If you would like any more information or want to ask me any personal questions, please ask Janet for my personal e-mail address. I will answer any and all questions and would be very glad to help you. Please know that you’re not alone and that we are all here for you. I wish you and your husband continued success. Take care!