Philphil, thanks so much for sharing your experiences with us. I’m sure that not being able to have intercourse over the years has been challenging, but it’s great to hear that you still have an intimate sex life with your wife. I think a lot of men partnered with women with vaginismus would greatly envy what you have (and actually probably a lot of married couples who CAN have intercourse too!) There are a lot of ways for intimacy to depart a partnership and it takes work and communication to still be able to be satisfied by each other. I hope that you feel pride in having that connection. And. you never know what will happen in life – your wife may find new motivation to pursue dilation, the botox treatment, or other methods later in life. We can never know how things will turn out, but it’s great that you are supportive to your wife and skilled at making your needs known so they can be met.