Reply To: “Technique” I’ve learned to share intimacy

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This is exactly what our sexologist told us too… and it did wonders. It’s a fantastic method and it helped my husband to talk about his individual needs and to make it clear to me whenever he felt the need to have an orgasm. Before that, my husband couldn’t talk about this, and at the same time I knew he wasn’t feeling okay, so this created a lot of tension and misunderstandings. Our sexologist told him he had to tell me whenever he was in the mood, and he left me the choice: either I helped him, or I let him do his thing when I really wasn’t in the mood. But at least this created a form of intimacy between us, which was not there when he ‘secretly’ masturbated.